For months, I had been dealing with a nagging feeling of insecurity in my relationship. My girlfriend, who I loved and cared for deeply, constantly reminded me that I wasn’t her type. At first, I brushed it off as a joke or a passing comment, but as time went on, it became a persistent theme in our relationship.
She would often compare me to her ideal partner, someone with a more edgy, emo style, and remark on how my friend’s sense of humor and fashion sense were more to her liking.
Even when we were out together, she would point out guys who fit her type and tell me how attractive she found them. It was like she was trying to convince me that I wasn’t good enough for her.
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I tried to address my concerns with her, explaining how her words made me feel inadequate and insecure. But instead of reassuring me, she would simply laugh it off and tell me that I was being too sensitive. It was like she didn’t realize the impact her words had on me.
Despite my efforts to change my appearance and style to fit her ideals, she continued to fantasize about her “type”.
I started dressing in a way that I thought she would like, styling my hair differently, and even trying to adopt some of the interests and hobbies she had mentioned her ideal partner would have. But no matter how hard I tried, it seemed like nothing I did was good enough.
The final straw came when she sent me a TikTok video of a guy who embodied her ideal type. She messaged me, “Wow, this guy is so handsome!” It was like she was rubbing it in my face, reminding me once again that I wasn’t good enough for her.
That’s when I realized that I had had enough. I couldn’t keep going on like this, constantly trying to prove myself to someone who didn’t appreciate me for who I was. I decided to take control of my situation and ended the relationship.
At first, she was shocked and begged me to stay, promising to change and appreciate me for who I am. But I stood firm, knowing that I deserved better. It wasn’t easy, but I focused on self-improvement and moved on.
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Months later, she reached out, apologizing profusely and admitting that she had taken me for granted. She realized too late that I was the one who made her feel safe and loved, not just a fleeting attraction to her “type”. But I had already moved on, and she was left to regret her actions.
Looking back, I realize that I was settling for a relationship that wasn’t healthy for me. I deserved someone who loved and appreciated me for who I am, not someone who constantly reminded me of my shortcomings. It was a hard lesson to learn, but I’m glad I took control of my situation and moved on.
